The Invisible Predator Slowly Eroding Your Relationship
Teenage son number two has this unconscious habit of discarding socks and stuffing them in random places every time he sits down.... I’m not even sure he’d know where to begin looking for them should he ever run out of clean socks if I didn’t throw them all down the stairs towards his room.
At least when I was married, his father kept them together as a pair, on the edge of the couch every time.... so I can’t really blame that unconscious habit of randomly losing pieces of his clothing on his father...... oh no.... that randomly losing pieces because you stuff them places..... that’s me.... only it’s not cloths....
It was emotions and parts of myself I used to discard every time I felt uncomfortable, in my marriage.
I have learned sooooo many lessons getting divorced and turning inward to reclaim and heal so many fucking pieces I discarded along the way, in trying to understand the complexities of myself as a person, and I can now put into practice what it takes to keep my now eight year relationship growing and thriving, without losing me again in the years to come.
One thing Aaron has benefited from is my commitment to never get complacent again..... no matter how busy are lives are..... and like everyone I know, we are busy..... not to mention we don’t live together either, so there are no ‘little moments’ to pretend we are actually connecting (truth be told as much as I sometimes wished we lived together, I’m grateful we are forced to carve out time to spend together..... otherwise the chances would be much higher the grips of that complacent predator might catch us!)
I totally understand how it happens.... it definitely started to happen before I ever had kids, and maybe that’s where the death of the relationship started.... who knows..... but if you aren’t divorced, and it’s not high up on your list of things to experience in life..... take this article as a wake up call.....
You get complacent because you think your life is just too busy for making room for your sexy sensual self a priority..... You imagine you’ll get back to your old sexy self once things settled back down.
But if you really think about it, it will become clear that things aren’t going to settle for a very long time.
And do you reallllly want to wait until the kids go off to college before you let your partner help you feel like a woman again??
I know I know, it’s not like you make a pact or anything.... like you set out to put the passionate, connected, naked side of your relationship on the back burner for decades...... however you do need to come to that realization and start trying again.
Take little steps to make each other feel sexy and desired, and to make yourselves sexy and desirable.
And while it may not result in more Sex.... cause let’s face it some schedules truly are conflicting with sexytime. Let’s not kid yourself..... Finding time to fuck or make love will still be a challenge..... But I guarantee the quality of your sex life will improve dramatically.
Don’t let Parenting stress become an excuse not to seduce each other, instead let it be the very reason you need to keep it going.
Making the conscious CHOICE to pursue, seduce, flirt, and keep desiring you’re partner, rather than always waiting for the other to go first also improves your bond.
Every time I recommit to those things.... a stronger connection forms with Aaron and I....the kind you can really feel.
Even when it doesn’t lead to sex, it increases our intimacy, makes us appreciate each other more, and leaves us in a more playful mood..... which in turn makes me a far more relaxed mother… scratch that a far more relaxed person in general (who doesn’t need that!!)..... and also makes me not so anxious to get more active on my social media and promote The Ignited Path’s programs and services! I had no idea how taxing this online stuff would be to my nervous system…… So for me keeping a high level of connection in my relationship has been a safety net that allows me to keep going on this journey to reaching and serving more women like you…. so in turn you can do the things you desire!
P.S. Need some help getting your sexy sensual self plugged back in.... Start with plugging back into yourself.... IGNITE is an audio adventure I created to challenge the way you think about Your sexy sensual self..... by the time you’re done listening to that, you’ll feel the commitment in your soul to stay connected.... and make it a conscious habit to nourish this side of yourself knowing it’s the missing piece to keep you pointed in direction of thriving in all areas of your life!
